The 6th episode of “Tom vs Time” was released yesterday and while watching it, I started to realize that maybe “winning” and “losing” can have multiple meanings.
Here are some quotes from his interview captured in the film:
“You realize that with time, the emotion will go away.”
“We didn’t get the outcome we wanted, I gave everything I had. I gave my best effort.”
“You don’t know when you’re going to get opportunities again.”
“You kind of have to go all in, and you’re accessible when you commit to something.”
“Look, this is where my ultimate focus is.”
“It’s another year in your life where you have an opportunity to do something you love to do. And you grow in ways that you couldn’t have if you were doing something else.”
“Who are we doing this for? Why are we doing this? You gotta have answers to those questions. And they have to be with alot of conviction. When you lose your conviction, you probably should be doing something else.”
Yes, he “lost” the Super Bowl this past season, and in prior seasons as well. After putting in so much time and effort and sacrifice for so long, the pain of losing must be very difficult to deal with.
But how does he do it, and seem to come back even stronger each time? I really believe that for him and others like him, there are two versions of “winning”. One version is about the emotion of the team that had the higher score, the parade and the trophy.
The other version is about something internal that has nothing to do with a scoreboard or record books.
“Winning” is about putting forth maximum effort. “Winning” is about focus and dedication. “Winning” is about spending time doing something you really love to do. “Winning” is about seizing the opportunities that you have, when you have them. “Winning” is about not looking backwards with the feeling that you could have done more to be better.
When you define “winning” in these terms, “winning” is a choice – and everyone of us can be undefeated.